Attracting them vibes... a matter of perception

I have been practicing and learning a lot about the law of attraction for a number of years now, some proactively and deliberately and some not so deliberately.

What I want to discuss with you today is the perceptions and understandings we have connected to the Law of Attraction (LOA) i.e. the core belief of the LOA is that what you focus on and feel: what you are transmitting constantly is what comes your way.

I have seen this from various angles and also for me, some of my learnings have been that what I am focusing on sending to others is what I may even receive in return, particularly when I am least expecting it. And then SPLAT! Sometimes it's instant "Karma"... Now I know that what I am sending out may not necessarily be kind, hey I'm human after all! So if someone really winds me up and has somehow, in my perception, screwed with my day going smoothly, being human my automatic reaction would be to get peeved to the point where I am visioning them getting a taste of their own medicine which includes sending them negative vibes.

Of course aiming to learn and be loving all the time I have been berated myself many times when I have caught myself staring daggers at the woman who just jumped the queue and so on. I find myself frequently standing in my guilty corner without forgiving myself.

Now my topic for ponderance today is one that confuses me. in my life, I know some people who have spent their entire lives and every spare moment envying, despising and bad mouthing others simply because for them it is a given daily practice and a moment does not pass when they do not feel justified in belittling anyone and wishing them ill because they view themselves as god's neglected ones and born victims.

Now, when you think that "what you give is what you get back".... why are these people living comfortable lives free of pain with no sufferance that the naked eye can see or the mind perceive?

In fact, I know one particular case, an individual who has spent almost all of his life bitching, hating and resenting others and being mean to others. Frequently moaning about how he's been excluded from enjoying life's gifts and how every person in the world has been against him all his life, how life has dealt him a horrendous blow and yet his life, as far as I can see, has been comfortable and easy and made even easier recently with a lot of benefits coming his way.

In my opinion, this person has been so cruel to others in his life that in the case of energy being sent out I would have expected him to be overwhelmed with pain and dis-ease. Yet non seems to be apparent, this person appears to live his life peacefully free of fraught anxiety at any level.

What gives Universe? What have these individuals done to receive support and love all their lives instead of the jealousy and pain they constantly transmit to others?

The only thing I can think of is that at some level they love themselves beyond their minds and know at every level that they are unsoiled and therefore fully deserving of all life's blessings, which is what they have attracted and appear to be indulging in.

I am rather sad as I sit here unsure of how to bypass the feelings this quizzical conundrum brings to mind. I feel resentful about the pain these people have rained on others and wonder why they can enjoy their lives so comfortably.

But then again I am being overtly judgemental.

On the one hand the LOA says focus + energy = magnetic attraction of whatever you are resonating at... so you think bad... feel bad and send out bad... you get more bad in your personal experience... TRUE or FALSE?

Why then in the cases I have in mind do these individuals continue to experience the best of the best in life? As I write this I know that I am viewing these individuals' life experiences as being joyful, pain less and healthful and this may be a completely skewed perception.

In short - this is simply my PERCEPTION... yet I can't get past the fact that they seem to have to easy.

I then look for explanations elsewhere:

A) Theory number one is that the Universal Law Of Attraction does not work alone and that other universal laws are at play in these situations such as the Law of Balance, etc. which then complicates the dynamics at play in any given situation.

B) Theory number two is one that subscribes to the theory of this planet and universe being part of a "school" for soul evolution. A school where you come in to learn how to live in accordance with the Universal Laws and situations are created at a higher evolutionary level to help you learn and expand your soul's awareness.

C) Theory number three is based on the old eastern cultural beliefs of karmic debts. You are reborn because you have one or several karmic debts to repay a process of re-balancing the the soul account books so to speak. The danger here being is that in the life where you are repaying a karmic debt you could actually end up creating further karmic debts depending on how you behave in relation to basic natural and universal laws of balance i.e. be nice or else! ;-).

D) Theory number four, all of the above and more that i have not yet considered or am aware of.

As a person who is still learning and growing with my personal awareness I believe this is where the learning's will expand showing how and if these are related and what dynamics are at play in our daily lives. So watch this space.

If you have any opinions or ideas you wish to share I am very open to hearing from you.

Hancock the movie & Soul Mate relationships

Wed 10 Sep 2008
Hancock & Soul Mate relationships
Well I have just enjoyed my second viewing of the wonderful movie with Will Smith and Charlize Theron - Hancock. Raise your hands all those who loved it. . . . Those who didn't. . . hmmm about equal, I think!

I actually AM a fan. I loved it! In particular I loved the deeper soul mate relationships ideas and meanings portrayed in the movie. Now whether that was intentional or not I don't know but I see more within the story played out between Hancock and Mary AKA Angel!

My interpretation links in with my personal experience of soul mate relationships and also ties in with the experiences of other light workers and all folks really who have at one time or another experienced and all emcompassing, fiery, passionate relationship with a magnificent pulling power all of it's own. A relationhsip you felt/feel you could not survive without which, in most cases, started with a bang.

Most people who have lived through intense soul mate relationships have experienced love at first sight or in some cases, as in mine, sound. That instantaneous calling to the soul within that this person has something for you. You feel that with this person you are complete. Try and leave them and you struggle.

Even when the relationship is disastrous, controlling, manipulative and draining, you have elements of you that keep going back and you believe with all your heart that this other person and you are meant to be. You may even kid yourself that challenges facing the relationship are simply tests to help you appreciate each other more. And in most cases it is a mutually challenging drama.

I do not doubt that there challenges in all relationships in fact I know there are but somehow the soul mate challenges drive you to distraction with the power they seem to hold over you and resistance is futile.

My experience has taught me that soul mates exist on this plane to basically "push" us to accept those immortal parts of us we are asleep to and fearful of. Those parts of us that we mistakenly believe make us weak and vulnerable when in fact in "reality" the opposite is true, since opening up to our darker, fearsome elements and accepting them with unconditional love makes us more powerful than we dare to dream of being in many ways. In simple human terms when you are less afraid of your "weaknesses" or the shadowy elements to our personalities we are less prone to emotional blackmail or abuse and we Know ourselves beyond question which makes it easier to believe in ourselves.

The parallels I drew from the Hancock movie to "soul mate" relationships are:

A) There was, in the movie, a subconscious knowing for Hancock that there was something going on with Mary whether you put that down to sexual chemistry or more it is there.
Soul mates inevitable know when they are in the presence of their soul mate it could be the electrically charged atmosphere it could be the magnetic draw to the persons words or actions or clothes even in some cases the sense of being under a spell is intense.

B) There was a line that Mary (Charlize Theron) spoke about being one half of each other i.e. "we were made in pairs" and no matter where I go he finds me. In the story Hancock had been left in Miami with amnesia and the story takes place in Los Angeles - he found her! Aah sweet love! I personally have experienced this pull, finding myself drawn to various places tiem and time again subconciously as have many of my clients who have come to me for support with relationships.

C) In the movie, when they are together they grow weaker and become more human; inevitable this is what happens in soul mate relationships. As soon as the soul mates start spending time together the relationship will throw up challenges that are highlighted as weaknesses/incompatibilities that fail to support the longevity of the relationship. The partners will start pushing each others buttons; you will feel and allow yourself to be more vulnerable around this person, you will be pushed beyond your emotional thresholds and to places you never dreamt you could sink to; you will compromise for the sake of the relationship at the expense of your ideals and needs because being away from your beloved makes you feel useless, dead inside and numerous limitations come to the surface. So on the one hand you feel complete when you are together and on the other hand your reactions to each other make you weak and push you both through painful learning experiences. And test you both to see how much can you really take?

Through my experience, reading about others and through supporting others through their challenges I have learnt that soul mates show you where you are limiting yourself. Where are you being less than for you and where are you not loving yourself. The essential lesson is you are immortal you will not die of heartbreak if you decide to honour yourself and walk. Your love has to start with loving yourself or else you will keep replaying these dramas over and over again until you learn to seperate abuse of self and each other from love.

Soul mates no matter how powerfully they fall in love and attract each other exist to show the soul how powerful it is not how dependent or needy it is. Immortality comes in knowing you exist first and foremost for yourself for your experiences and depending on soul mates to love you when you are unable to love and honour yourself is folly.

I could write all night but I would love to read what you all have to say. Did anyone else notice the parallels? Or any other interesting insights?

Ciao for now!