Hancock the movie & Soul Mate relationships

Wed 10 Sep 2008
Hancock & Soul Mate relationships
Well I have just enjoyed my second viewing of the wonderful movie with Will Smith and Charlize Theron - Hancock. Raise your hands all those who loved it. . . . Those who didn't. . . hmmm about equal, I think!

I actually AM a fan. I loved it! In particular I loved the deeper soul mate relationships ideas and meanings portrayed in the movie. Now whether that was intentional or not I don't know but I see more within the story played out between Hancock and Mary AKA Angel!

My interpretation links in with my personal experience of soul mate relationships and also ties in with the experiences of other light workers and all folks really who have at one time or another experienced and all emcompassing, fiery, passionate relationship with a magnificent pulling power all of it's own. A relationhsip you felt/feel you could not survive without which, in most cases, started with a bang.

Most people who have lived through intense soul mate relationships have experienced love at first sight or in some cases, as in mine, sound. That instantaneous calling to the soul within that this person has something for you. You feel that with this person you are complete. Try and leave them and you struggle.

Even when the relationship is disastrous, controlling, manipulative and draining, you have elements of you that keep going back and you believe with all your heart that this other person and you are meant to be. You may even kid yourself that challenges facing the relationship are simply tests to help you appreciate each other more. And in most cases it is a mutually challenging drama.

I do not doubt that there challenges in all relationships in fact I know there are but somehow the soul mate challenges drive you to distraction with the power they seem to hold over you and resistance is futile.

My experience has taught me that soul mates exist on this plane to basically "push" us to accept those immortal parts of us we are asleep to and fearful of. Those parts of us that we mistakenly believe make us weak and vulnerable when in fact in "reality" the opposite is true, since opening up to our darker, fearsome elements and accepting them with unconditional love makes us more powerful than we dare to dream of being in many ways. In simple human terms when you are less afraid of your "weaknesses" or the shadowy elements to our personalities we are less prone to emotional blackmail or abuse and we Know ourselves beyond question which makes it easier to believe in ourselves.

The parallels I drew from the Hancock movie to "soul mate" relationships are:

A) There was, in the movie, a subconscious knowing for Hancock that there was something going on with Mary whether you put that down to sexual chemistry or more it is there.
Soul mates inevitable know when they are in the presence of their soul mate it could be the electrically charged atmosphere it could be the magnetic draw to the persons words or actions or clothes even in some cases the sense of being under a spell is intense.

B) There was a line that Mary (Charlize Theron) spoke about being one half of each other i.e. "we were made in pairs" and no matter where I go he finds me. In the story Hancock had been left in Miami with amnesia and the story takes place in Los Angeles - he found her! Aah sweet love! I personally have experienced this pull, finding myself drawn to various places tiem and time again subconciously as have many of my clients who have come to me for support with relationships.

C) In the movie, when they are together they grow weaker and become more human; inevitable this is what happens in soul mate relationships. As soon as the soul mates start spending time together the relationship will throw up challenges that are highlighted as weaknesses/incompatibilities that fail to support the longevity of the relationship. The partners will start pushing each others buttons; you will feel and allow yourself to be more vulnerable around this person, you will be pushed beyond your emotional thresholds and to places you never dreamt you could sink to; you will compromise for the sake of the relationship at the expense of your ideals and needs because being away from your beloved makes you feel useless, dead inside and numerous limitations come to the surface. So on the one hand you feel complete when you are together and on the other hand your reactions to each other make you weak and push you both through painful learning experiences. And test you both to see how much can you really take?

Through my experience, reading about others and through supporting others through their challenges I have learnt that soul mates show you where you are limiting yourself. Where are you being less than for you and where are you not loving yourself. The essential lesson is you are immortal you will not die of heartbreak if you decide to honour yourself and walk. Your love has to start with loving yourself or else you will keep replaying these dramas over and over again until you learn to seperate abuse of self and each other from love.

Soul mates no matter how powerfully they fall in love and attract each other exist to show the soul how powerful it is not how dependent or needy it is. Immortality comes in knowing you exist first and foremost for yourself for your experiences and depending on soul mates to love you when you are unable to love and honour yourself is folly.

I could write all night but I would love to read what you all have to say. Did anyone else notice the parallels? Or any other interesting insights?

Ciao for now!