Loving 'em crispy bits! - Skilled state of mind change

I was "ghosting" for my mum this morning, she is preparing for an extended family visit and dinner party. Mum loves to make each event she hosts memorable for all parties present and so always goes the extra mile.

Her cooking skills are lauded worldwide by people in the family and out.

I got a tad sidetracked and just managed to rescue the slow cooking pot in that split-second moment where the base starts to overheat in places causing some of the sauce to overcook and stick to the pot.

My mind in it's usual critical self started it's old telling me off stories - you know ...

"there now! it's all ruined you have to start all over again!" - a slight over reaction if I may say so, going onto

"if you'd paid more attention then this wouldn't have happened, you wouldn't have wasted all that time and energy and ingredients!". & on & on..

I wondered if I could rescue the ingredients. Taking a closer look at the pot I realised that I had reached it just in time and in fact the bits that were extra cooked were simply on the verge of getting over crisped and really the dish was no where near a disaster, especially for people like me who love some juicy crispy bits in my food.

Are you one of those people who dig down into the bag of chips to find those nicely crisped golden tidbits and truly take time to indulge in the crispiness of the said crispy bit? Well if so then you will relate to what I have to say, I adore those little crispy bits! My favourites are the bits that look sorta golden-red around the edges, you know, those bits that got rescued just before they got overly cooked?

There is something extra special about those bits, isn't there?

Anywho, this brought to mind some old memories of mum's cooking and what I liked best was the crispiness of the onions in a dish or the crispy, crunchiness of chicken that was crispy on the outside and soft on the inside, and roast potatoes that she had crisped just right because we all liked those special crunchy bits so much!

Those dishes are still my favourite and at times I encourage my mum to recreate these childhood favourites.

In this moment of self awareness I suddenly realised that from being in a moment of complete and utter disaster where I was in a place of loss I had changed my perception of the event I was experiencing turning it around to in fact be rather special...I believe I had learnt mum's trick of making sure we all got those special juicy, crunchy bits that we all loved.

My mind then turned to wonder could I dare to believe that I was absent mindedly recreating old disasters that happened to mum as she rushed around between her various jobs and necessary chores that come with being a single mum to 7 children!

Had the juicy, crispy dishes she had created for us that became family favourites started life as a result of her attention being distracted by one or more of her off spring's dramas as she juggled, cooking and paying attention to 7 kids and at times working from home? Had she in fact applied her mothering skills to "seduce us"" into appreciating these crispy dishes saying they were a speciality that only we, her children were favoured with?

An early experience with state of mind change, an expert tool so easily learnt and practiced by everyone especially mothers to get the best out of any situation for their broods.

I will always adore mum's marinated chicken that had to be crisped in this way for us to fully enjoy it, and thanks to my momentary lapse in attention I am a little closer to mimicking my mum's adored and respected cooking skills not to say anything about her NLP skills!


My Mum's crispy meals are extremely well loved and we almost fought over them as kids. The power of the master NLP practitioner is in the results.